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I'm going to talk about something which I'm sure that every single one of us has been a culprit of, if not recently, then at some point in our lives. I know that I myself have been a culprit of this specific thing in the past more times than I can count. This is a post which is mainly for the girls, however, I guess boys would do well to pick up some tips from it too. This little thing which I want to talk about, is ending girl on girl hate. It's the concept of lifting up your sisters, rather than comparing yourself to them and dragging them down in the process. It's the idea that, in order for girls to thrive in this society, we need to learn how to respect each other before we can muster respect from everyone else.

I know how easy it can be to feel a rivalry with other women. In a way, it's something which we've been taught to do right from the beginning. This idea of assessing other women in comparison to ourselves is fed to us all through our lives, be that from the HOT or NOT pages in magazines to the online articles slating famous women for their post-pregnancy bikini bodies. We're expected to put other women down. To demand compliments which knock other women in the process. To find a flaw in them which is guaranteed to make us feel better about ourselves.

Girl on girl hate tears women apart, when in 2017 what we really need to be doing is forming our army. Not only this, hatred between women shows men that they're also allowed to tear us down the way that we tear down each other. It creates a crack in our armour which shows us not as unified, but as a group at war with each other. In order for us to be taken seriously, we need to start taking each other seriously first. We need to start understanding how to utilise each others strengths to build ourselves up, instead of fighting against each other to get to the top.

What we need to remember is that another woman's success is not your failure. There's room for all of us to succeed, so we need to quit the jealousy and start acting as cheerleaders for each other. Women supporting other women is the strongest move that we can be making at the moment.

For me, a huge flaw in feminism is that so many women aren't getting on board with it. We have female journalists slating famous women who are trying to make their voices heard, and huge female stars refusing to use their voices when it comes to speaking out on women's issues. When women with huge platforms start disassociating themselves from feminism, or even worse, denouncing it completely, the problem starts to grow.

I think it's easy for me to suggest that we're all a little kinder to each other and that it's more difficult to implement something like this, but every great success begins with small steps. Revolutions can often begin with a small flame, and that small flame, in this case, is supporting your sisters. It's lifting other women up and helping to magnify their voices. It's creating platforms for your sisters of all backgrounds, ethnicities, sexualities and sizes. It's helping these women to reach the top of their game instead of fighting with them for that top spot. There is room for all of us at the top. To get there, we need to be unified.



    I don't understand why do many women are out to destroy each other, where is the love in the world? We'd stand stronger if all had respect for one another!

    Steph x

    1. Agreed, Stephanie! That's definitely the right way to look at things. x