For as long as men have existed, women's bodies have been policed. Although the more I think about that sentence, the more it doesn't seem fair. It's not just men policing women's bodies. It's all of society.

The question, 'what should a modest woman wear?', isn't an old one at all. I imagine that before the likes of Piers Morgan started using the internet to harass women who didn't fit his mould of 'the perfect female', cavemen were probably grunting in disapproval at their female counterparts for wearing their animal skin wraps a little on the short side. What I'd really like to know is, what came first, the man or the misogynist?

The point is this. The belief that a man has the right to condemn a woman for what she decides to wear is wrong. The belief that a woman has the right to see her own choices as superior to the choices of other women is wrong. The belief that a man has the right to pit women against each other and tell them which is the more superior female based on their take on feminism, is wrong. Piers Morgan and men alike, I am once again looking at you here. I'd like to be the first to quote F.r.i.e.n.d.s in a political rant, and point out: "no uterus, no opinion". You lost your right to tell me what I can and cannot do with my body a long time ago. It is a right you should never have had. It is my body and I will do whatever I like with it. And whatever I do with it, if I see that as empowering, then it is. Your opinion has no part in this.

The main issue recently, seems to be the lack of understanding in what empowerment actually is, and why it's necessary. By dictionary definition, empowerment is the process of becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling one's life and claiming ones's rights. A pretty vague definition, but necessarily so.

In simpler terms, empowerment is whatever the hell you want it to be. It is expressing yourself and giving yourself strength in whatever way you see fit. Female empowerment is subjective.

So whether you find your strength within the cover of a headscarf, or in the liberation of a bare chest, you have the right to command respect. You have the right to feel confident. You have the right to be brave. You are your own individual being, and your choices are so important.

The next time anybody tries to pit you against another woman, the next time you try to compare yourself to another woman, remember that feminism comes in many forms, and conforming is not a part of this movement.

Wear makeup. Don't wear makeup. Fuck with your gender. Stick to traditional norms. Love who you want. Say what you want. Make a mockery of the way girls have been taught to live. Cover up all of your skin or bare it all to the world. Make a choice, but make it your own. You have the right to empower yourself in absolutely any way in this life. The only thing you should not be doing, is listening to the opinions of small minded men, who feel as though they still deserve the power to tell you how to live.

Disclaimer: I know it's not all men. Please don't be that person who tells me 'it's not all men'. I know it's not all men. 


  1. I love this. People should be allowed to have their own forms of 'them'. It's hard for some to understand that empowerment is subjective & this makes it very clear. ☺

    Viicreative xx

    1. Thanks Victoria! It's something so simple yet it took me so long to fully understand the concept. Glad you enjoyed the post!xx

  2. I absolutely adore this. What you've said really hit home to me especially about other women judging/shaming women for certain things like wearing a headscarf etc. I'm guilty of seeing certain things as signs of oppression and automatically assuming the woman didn't have a choice. I need to work on that.
    V <3

    1. Thank you so much! I've been a culprit in the past too. It's so easy to see one set idea of what liberation actually is, when in reality it's such a personal thing. Thanks for all your support V!x