THE STRUGGLE WITH LIKES


Using social media has just become the norm these days. In fact, it feels weird to even have to justify that it is the 'norm', because it has become SO integrated into all of our daily lives. It's like trying to tell someone that breathing is the norm. Completely uninteresting. Social media is everywhere. Every one of us has embraced it in different ways, and it's amazing. Most of us cannot go a day without updating our Facebook statuses or typing out a tweet. Because if a tree falls in a forest, but no one is there to Instagram it with a carefully selected filter, did it really happen? I feel like today, instead of striving for good experiences in life, we strive for the likes on our photos of them.

We’ve all experienced that feeling of posting something we think is great, and being baffled a few hours later when the likes haven’t even hit double digits yet (talk about first world problems). It's a rubbish feeling - a lack of approval which we all, on some level, crave when we post on social media. We rely on likes from other people to confirm to us how great our post was, and consequently, how great that experience was. It's like we've all come to associate the number of likes we get on Facebook with the number of people who actually like or care about us. Which is so weird, and completely illogical. The amount of likes that you get on your selfie should be in no way correlated with your feeling of self worth. Again, completely illogical.

All too often I’ll work hard on a blog post, and it’ll get little to no response when I post it on social media. It feels a little heart breaking that you can put so much work into something, and get so little back out if it. But why should a blog post be written in the hope for likes? If people are seeing your content, reading it, and shaping opinions on the subject - that's a much more positive outcome that you have created from your post. Blog posts should be written out of creativity and a love for the subject, not for a handful of likes. With this logic, why should anything be posted on social media in the hope for likes? The only person that really needs to like it is you.

The world is changing pretty quickly, and social media is a big part of that. Sometimes it’s hard to keep up, and sometimes you wish you could shut it out for a little while and turn it all off. I promise, life does not end if your profile picture doesn’t reach 100 likes. Life will continue, even when that tweet you spent ages thinking up gets completely ignored, and nobody really cares if that photo you want to post on Instagram doesn't match your "theme". Although it's hard for us all to wrap our heads around, there is literally SO much more to life than your presence on social media.

1 comment :

  1. This was a really great read Lauren! The fact that life and experiences aren’t real unless they are shared onto Instagram, tweeted or put onto Facebook really justifies the fact that future generations are almost doomed. We can’t be spontaneous anymore. We can’t run into the ocean with all our clothes on because our phones are in our pockets. We won’t go camping in destinations where there is no reception because our iPhones wont be able to tell us the quickest route home. We are all slaves to our devices at times.

    I can definitely admit how brutal it feels when you Instagram a photo and it doesn’t reach double digits, even though the quality is crisp and you uploaded it at the ‘prime time’ of the day. Talk about questioning your entire life and existence every time you see your followers liking other peoples post but not yours. Is it me? My photos? My theme? Was my caption not funny enough? Should I have used a song lyric instead? It’s sad, but we’ve all been there. Some, every time they upload a picture. The obsession and cravings of likes has become so unhealthy and I’m glad you’ve written this post as it really captures the essence of the topic and issue.

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